Thanks Clogz..
Well, I gave up on the red toggle, and removed the whole trim and carpet under drivers dash, took all of a minute

and there she was, clicking away...
I tried the resistor change, but wasn't really making a difference

dont know what was not going right..
anyway, cut a long short, I spent a another whole minute, and removed the indicator/light switch assembly. Took it apart (it comes apart in two ways, you need to open it from the front i.e. the nearest join too driver)
and exposed the indicator track, with its grime. Cleaned and squirted with 3 - in - 1 and all seems fine. Really much easier than trying the mess around on the circuit board of the relay.. although somehow not as satisfying...
Just pay attention to the rotating Driving/Fog lamp gearwheel interface and indictor/steering column peg (for cancelling indicators) when reasssembling..
John