I spoke to easy diagnostics who said they do have the kit that will work for my vehicles but pointed me to a full chip lexia3 on ebay and said that will save me money, do the same thing and that i would be able to disable the sos system using the software. Absolutly lovley bloke who even said when you buy it off this other person give me a ring if you need help with it. I can highly recomend talking to them for an honest answer to what kit would suit you best.
After unlocking again the car no longer calls emergency services but it states finding your location and trys to contact someone. Does the dialing beeps repeatedly for some time before it just gives up so im looking forward to turning it off for good
Will diagnose it first to see whats what but its being turned off after all the headache its caused