Well I've just gone on a £300 spending spree to get most of the heavy tools that I think I'll need and which will hopefully let me get this job done without too much difficulty and give me a few options to approach it.
A low profile high lift jack that is far superior than either of the crap £30 jacks I have now:
https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/164405903837
I've wanted a jack like this for a while now as I really struggle with the small jacks I have, I guess now I have an excuse to get it and it will be well used in the future.
A small scissor style transmission lift:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00NVKHS88
This could either do the actual lifting up and down of the gearbox and has a strap that can go over the top of the gearbox as soon as there is a gap between the gearbox and motor, or it could be used as the prop to hold the motor stack. I'll probably see if I can use this to do the actual lowering down of the gearbox and just use a standard axle stand to support the motor stack. With nearly 400mm of travel and a minimum height of 200mm I think it will have just enough travel to drop the gearbox right out and clear the front of the car if I get the car set up at the right height above ground.
Finally as a catch all if I need some extra manoeuvring options from the top for example if I want to lift the gearbox off the transmission lift via the lifting eye and lower it directly to the ground (once clear of the onboard charger etc) I grabbed the ratchet chain lift, because for £42 why not give myself those extra options?
https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/154319612866
If I do need to use it I'll quickly throw together a wooden frame that sits over the car for it to hang from, I have plenty of wood in the garage and nail plates etc... I can see uses for this in the garage in the future as I have a beam running most of the length of the garage. Also got a short length of chain and some shackles so I can easily hang it form a horizontal wood beam.
I have some driveshaft output seals on order from autodoc - unfortunately they were very slow with their last order so who knows when those will arrive! In the worst case scenario those could actually be replaced on the car with the driveshafts pulled out I suppose so it doesn't necessarily have to delay the bulk of the work.
All I'm really lacking now is some ATF for the gearbox, nylock nuts and moly grease.
£300 sounds like a lot but its less than even one way transport to Cleevely and it's all useful stuff that I'll use in the future which will help round out my tool collection. At least that's how I'm justifying it to myself...
I guess I'm committed to having a go at this now!
As much as driving the Xantia is a change of pace, I'm really missing the creature comforts of the Leaf!